I Will Trust You, Babe

M. & I celebrated 3 months of being married on Saturday (yes I like to celebrate everything) During these 3 months we have experienced moments of stress, happiness, sadness, & struggle. It has been difficult overcoming obstacles in our path, having been out of work because of my back spasms for almost 2 months was the biggest obstacle. Being out of work means I had no income to help pay bills, groceries, & of course my multiple very expensive doctors appointments, M. has been doing it all on his own, but I’ve never been more proud of the hard worker he is. 3 weeks ago things began to look up; I was feeling a lot better & I was offered a position with a different/better agency. I gave my old agency my resignation through an email & that alone lifted a weight off both our shoulders, I was very unhappy there & constantly complaining & constantly stressed out. With this new job I am earning more money & being treated like a person as opposed to a dollar sign. I am so grateful for the direction our lives are moving. I am certain we will continue to experience trials of many kinds but I am also certain that every day we are growing stronger & closer together. Marriage isn’t easy. There I said it!

I am ending this post early but ending it with a beautiful song. Enjoy.

 

 

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Who gets to play DJ?

I have put together a playlist of songs that I have really enjoyed the last few months leading up to the wedding & now a newlywed. They are melodies that change my state of mind at once. (A combination of styles) For those who know me, know that music can get me to do anything, even wash dishes. (See last post) M. is a music elitist & being married to him really challenges my knowledge of music & love for it. Although I still enjoy  the sentimentality of listening to artists such as Damien Rice, my musical taste has come a long way. M. teases me about the music I listen to sometimes, which I think is amusing since there’s definitely some tunes he likes, that I cannot tolerate. I’m sure he feels the same way. You wouldn’t think it but, who gets to play DJ on the iPod is a battle sometimes. So I introduce you to my playlist, in no special order.

1.  Electric Feel-MGMT
2. See Your Sunshine-Sir Paul McCartney
3.  15 Step-Radiohead
4. Sunny Afternoon-The Kinks
5. The General Specific-Band of Horses
6. She’s A Rainbow-The Rolling Stones
7. Raindrops-Regina Spektor
8. Mr. Tambourine Man-Bob Dylan
9. Rolling In The Deep-Adele
10. Say It To Me Now-Glen Hansard
11. Everything Is Everything-Lauryn Hill
12. Hypnotized-Notorious BIG

Thanks for reading/listening.

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I Hate Washing Dishes!

This morning I texted my mom & best friend to share my excitement. I wrote, “Today we’ve been married for exactly one month!” To which my best friend replied “OMG no way! Already?!” & a minute later my mom replied “Not until tomorrow right?!?”  I felt like such a bad wife that I had mistaken our boyfriend/girlfriend anniversary date with the date of our wedding (they are only one day apart). So although we are not exactly at our one month mark I am still going to  make a list of my favorite things about our marriage so far.

• Privacy. We both lived with our parents & rarely had privacy. I really enjoy sitting on our living room couches talking about whatever we want, or doing whatever we want. Currently I am writing this, & he is playing his video game. With privacy comes comfort.
• Cooking. It has been a lot of fun trying new recipes & attempting to cook some of my favorite dishes my mom makes. (they of course never come out the same) I intend to post some good & easy recipes in future posts. There is a downside to all this cooking; there’s always dirty dishes in the sink & I hate washing dishes.
• Visitors. We haven’t had too many but it is nice to welcome friends & family into our home. I like being a host.
• Him. My husband always makes me laugh, & living with him means I am laughing all the time. I love learning to be a wife & I enjoy watching him learn to be a husband. We’ve grown up with good & bad examples so you make it your own when you’re married. Although there are times where one of us has to walk away from an argument, (usually him since I am confrontational) just living together means we it’s just me & him. No matter what.

Those aren’t the only pleasing aspects of marriage, but they have been the most memorable thus far. Marriage is still not easy & takes 110% effort from both persons. Who ever said it was 50/50 was most definitely wrong.

Tags: anniversary, lists, marriage, texting, washing dishes, Wedding, wife

Lady Gaga & The Vet.

First of all, lets get a little bit of background information. We met on Halloween night 2009 at a mutual friends’ party. I was dressed as the fabulous Lady Gaga (a costume I put together in 10 minutes with the help of my moms underdress suit & my own white wig) & he was wearing scrubs (he says he was a veterinarian, but really he works at a hospital & was wearing work clothes) I never believed meeting someone at a party was ideal but for some reason we talked like we had been friends for a long time asked questions that you dont really ask when meeting someone for the first time, and that changed my ideas of a perfect meeting. We exchanged phone numbers. I can’t remember if he texted me first, or if it was the other way around but the next time we saw each other it was my birthday & he drove to see me. (a whole week after Halloween) We sat in his car listening to The Beatles LOVE Cirque du Soleil soundtrack & talked more about ourselves & our mutual love for The Beatles. Then was where I decided to go out on a limb & invite him to Las Vegas (a trip that my friends & I had been planning for a couple months for the following weekend. Coincidentally some of his friends had also planned on going the same weekend.) It was going to be my first time in Las Vegas & I really liked the idea of us going together. We had known each other for a week & we were going away for the weekend. A couple days before leaving he asked if, while we were in Vegas, I’d like to see LOVE. Vegas turned out to be an amazing time.

Less than a month later & we were official. & a month after that I realized  I had fallen in love with him & it was killing me not to tell him. There was a day were I was dropping hints left & right. I’d play specific songs while driving together that had the words “I am in love with you” & he just didn’t get the point. All along I was so focused on getting my feelings across that I was not paying attention to his attempts. He later told me he had been playing The Way I Feel Inside by The Zombies, & that was his way of expressing “the way he felt inside.” That night was the night we told each other those 3 momentous words. About a month later he purchased my engagement ring, & two months after that he proposed.

We said our vows April 30, 2011 at around 5:45 pm. in Newport Beach, California. We declared our commitment of love before God &  loved ones & sealed the deal with a kiss. Today we have been married for 28 days & our whole life ahead of us is going to be filled with the following:

LOVE

Learning to make new food

Finding my favorite home products

Learning to live with a man who leaves his clothes on the floor

More love.

♥B